What to talk about on your first date

So you’ve decided to bite the bullet and you’ve registered to that dating site all your friends have been talking about. You created your profile, started messaging people and a couple of days later you’re chatting away to this man / woman / or other person and it is all going well between the two of you. So well that in fact you’ve agreed to meet for a walk and a drink, well done! But now it suddenly hits you: you’re going to be physically in the same room, face-to-face and all that. The question is: can you handle that or will you be a bit too nervous? Because when it comes to the date itself, conversations might not flow as easily from your mouth as they do from your mobile or computer keyboard.

Past conversations.

A good place to start is for you to go over the conversations you’ve been having online. Especially if you’re using the chatroom of a dating site then you will be able to access the conversations on your screen. Just read what you have been talking about to get to know the other person better, and also to see what subjects you have been covering. Maybe you’ve both talked about some of your passions and it will always be a good idea to come back to those. On the other hands you don’t want a repeat of what you’ve already talked about because that might just feel a little weird.

Face-to-face: the real thing.

The thing about talking to people online is by the time you actually meet you actually run out of things to ask or to say. It is just easier to take your time, think and type; it gives you that extra time to get it right. Once the person is in front of you, it can be tough to stay imaginative under the pressure. But maybe it is exactly that sort of pressure that you need to have a fun and relaxed conversation. So instead of pre-thinking what you should talk about, just go along with the moment. Remember you’re both there to enjoy yourselves, so have fun and live on the moment.

What type of dating?

This is important: what sort of dating is it? Is it a normal romantic date or did you meet that person on an adult dating site? Because for serious dates then the conversation is important, but if it’s just sex then you can just chat a bit but that won’t be the aim of the date. For example you don’t go for a date with someone you’ve met on LocalBangs and start talking about family life and commitment. You just chat, talk about what you want to do and what they want to do and you have a drink, find a hotel room and get down to it. The point is: conversation isn’t always required, depending on what kind of dating it is you are doing.